Detachment is a privilege held by people who aren’t targets.
"why are you so emotional about this" - unaffected people
read this. write it on your hand. repeat it to yourself.
so you can never ask me that again
You should absolutely not say “why are you so emotional about this” to anyone about anything. That is a dick move.
But … I wouldn’t want to say that detachment is necessarily a sign of privilege or only maintained by people who aren’t targets. Many people use detachment as a way to deal with being a target and with their lack of privilege. That stereotypical black male “cool” is a form of that—an understanding that in giving up emotions, showing that what the person in power is doing affects you, you are giving up whatever power you might have.
When I feel threatened, I become very unemotional for the same reasons. I will not give you the satisfaction, basically. It’s how I learned to deal with the emotional abuse that surrounded me as a child. (And even in that environment, I was often told I was too emotional. Now I’m often told that I’m too withholding. See how that works?)
I’m not saying this is a healthy or particularly good coping mechanism, but it is one that people use, that people are taught by others, and I would hate for the coping mechanism that one has used to protect oneself against people enacting their privilege to then be used against one by people who are in one’s situation, to say that it is a sign of privilege. Frequently it is not.
The whole thing is fascinating & infuriating. It’s so ~strange how the expression of emotions surrounding any -ism is better taken when it comes from an outside, more privileged party. A man railing against sexism isn’t seen as crazy, but as brave. A white person crying over racisms and their effects is wonderful. And, like the video I just reblogged, a white man crying over the genocide of Palestinians isn’t a terrorist-in-the-making (as videos of Arabs crying over the deaths of their loved ones at the hands of Zionists are often perceived), but instead worthy of respect and empathy.
UN spokesman Chris Guinness breaks down talking about Israel’s genocide of Palestinians
Mr Gunness, a former BBC reporter now working for the UN’s Relief and Works Agency, had spent the day examining evidence and describing yet another attack on one of its sites.
Israeli tank shells had slammed into a school sheltering some 3,300 homeless Gazans, killing 16 refugees - including children - and staff, provoking world wide horror.
Mr Gunness condemned the attack, ending: “The rights of Palestinians - even their children - are wholesale denied. And it’s appalling.”
For a moment, he keeps his cool. He blinks hard and looks relieved the interview has ended.
He squeezes out a brief thank you to his interviewer, saying “My pleasure” in a shaky voice.
Then it is all too much. He presses his hand to his eyes and breaks into sobs.
A colleague rushes to comfort him as the camera is pushed away, while the sound of wailing anguish grows.
(via The Telegraph)
Ah, fanart. Also known as the art that girls make.
Sad, immature girls no one takes seriously. Girls who are taught that it’s shameful to be excited or passionate about anything, that it’s pathetic to gush about what attracts them, that it’s wrong to be a geek, that they should feel embarrassed about having a crush, that they’re not allowed to gaze or stare or wish or desire. Girls who need to grow out of it.
That’s the art you mean, right?
Because in my experience, when grown men make it, nobody calls it fanart. They just call it art. And everyone takes it very seriously.
It’s interesting though — the culture of shame surrounding adult women and fandom. Even within fandom it’s heavily internalized: unsurprisingly, mind, given that fandom is largely comprised by young girls and, unfortunately, our culture runs on ensuring young girls internalize *all* messages no matter how toxic. But here’s another way of thinking about it.
Sports is a fandom. It requires zealous attention to “seasons,” knowledge of details considered obscure to those not involved in that fandom, unbelievable amounts of merchandise, and even “fanfic” in the form of fantasy teams. But this is a masculine-coded fandom. And as such, it’s encouraged - built into our economy! Have you *seen* Dish network’s “ultimate fan” advertisements, which literally base selling of a product around the normalization of all consuming (male) obsession? Or the very existence of sports bars, built around the link between fans and community enjoyment and analysis. Sport fandom is so ingrained in our culture that major events are treated like holidays (my gym closes for the Super Bowl) — and can you imagine being laughed at for admitting you didn’t know the difference between Supernatural and The X Files the way you might if you admit you don’t know the rules of football vs baseball, or basketball?
"Fandom" is not childish but we live in a culture that commodified women’s time in such away that their hobbies have to be "frivolous," because "mature" women’s interests are supposed to be marriage, family, and overall care taking: things that allow others to continue their own special interests, while leaving women without a space of their own.
So think about what you’re actually saying when you call someone “too old” for fandom. Because you’re suggesting they are “too old” for a consuming hobby, and I challenge you to answer — what do you think they should be doing instead?
Dylan O’Brien and Ariel Winter at the 2014 Young Hollywood Awards
my mother and I went with one of her friends to see “World War Z” more than a year ago. there are zombies! bad science! impossible action sequences! i wasn’t loving it, but it was passable up until the scene-change to Israel.
imagine: Israelis were letting Palestinians (back) into their cities at long last because of the zombie invasion (n___n) how kind of Israel! how understanding of Israel! how humane of Israel!
and my mother just looked at me at that point and said, “this is the most unrealistic movie I’ve ever seen”
This is who they have playing as Wonder Woman 😒
the only wonder woman i recognize is gina torres and/or laverne cox.
and lucy lawless.
the tags literally say “weareright” and “loveidf” fascism is so creepy
YOUR NEW WONDER WOMAN
I didn’t like her before and now I’m fucking LIVID
Fuck her and this trash ass movie.
laverne cox is the only wonder woman
well I know what movie I won’t be seeing
i already knew it was gonna be garbage but this is extra ugh
Ok I’m confused she’s sending prayers to people who are injured I don’t understand what’s wrong wit this picture.
1.) Please to be informing yourself about the people who are actually being killed rn in Palestine. Look at the numbers of civilians and children. Then compare with the number of Israeli civilians and soldiers.
2.) I want to scream at the ‘Hiding like cowards behind children and women.’ Palestine is under siege. This is what I understand: They are bombing civilian areas. Civilians are being told to leave their homes and flee, but are not given anywhere to go. The people who leave their homes are out after mandatory curfew. You are shot or arrested if you are caught out after mandatory curfew. The IDF is killing children and women indiscriminately. Some that are fleeing their homes. And Gadot is basically calling children/women ‘human shields.’ In truth, Israeli troops are using Palestinian civilians as human shields.
3.) To understand the situation in Palestine, please read through these. Understand that this is no war, this is genocide. Palestine has no military to defend itself. It has no standing army. Gadot’s tags say “we are right” and “love idf.” That’s fucking disturbing.
What a disgusting human being. Super bummed this is who is playing Wonder Woman — through sheer grit (and practice forgiving my own imperfections/stupidities) I can usually enjoy media that features actors who hold disgusting worldviews. EXCEPT THIS ONE THING. If you truly believe this racist SHITE, expunge yourself from my presence.
Guess what movie I’m NEVER EVER EVER seeing?